Right, this is not an easy post to write. To be honest, I just spend an hour procrastinating before starting to write it just because I wasn’t sure of how I was going to write this thing. The truth is Body image issues affect us all. That is a fact. Whether you are happy with your body where it is right now, or you want to improve a few things, we always have moments when we compare ourselves to someone that we think its fitter, taller (ok, this isn’t objective), prettier, skinnier, hotter, the list is endless. And although this is just senseless labels we follow them and we let them dictate our moods.
Why do we do that? I think I might know the reason. It is because we let our body image be dictated by the world outside us instead of looking within ourselves. What do we think? Can we improve something? And if the answer is yes, do we stop to think if we’re doing it for ourselves or someone else?
Ask yourself questions
It’s easy to consume media and to let yourself be affected by Instagram and magazine articles that talk about how to be your best self yet or how to be in the best shape of your life. And we don’t stop, we just keep reading and reading and just taking it all in. Can we think about it for a second? After all, It’s you who decides when are you in your best shape of your life. For example, who says that a pregnant woman isn’t in her best shape of her life? What about gaining weight, who says you aren’t happy after putting on a couple of pounds? Why does it always have to be a negative thing?
Ok, so I guess the first thing I have to say is that we have to stop a little. Reflect on our situation and of how we’re interacting with our environments. We are not sponges; we don’t have to absorb every piece of information we receive.
People are always commenting on how you look. Don’t give them power
Yeah, you heard me. Dinner parties, family gatherings, work, the truth is people coming from all areas of your life are going to comment on how you look, is a sad, sad, fact. Why? Because they have nothing else to talk about, sometimes they are just shallow, it doesn’t matter why they do it, what matters is that you don’t give them power. It is different to hear advice from someone that wants to encourage you and motivate you, to hear it from someone who you don’t even know, or even if you do know them! The most important part here is what you think: your body, your opinion.
As truthful as it is that you are the only one who can make yourself happy, you’re the only one that can change your body and is important that you do it for the right reasons(or that you don’t change it because no kind of pressure is positive, especially social pressure.
I don’t have a solution…at least one that will work overnight
The truth is that body image an endless debate, and although I can tell you what I think, I’m not sure of how to get over body image issues in a permanent why. Although I do know that a lot of it comes from the information that we’re consuming and how we’re letting others affect and dictate our thoughts and feelings. That’s not good, right?So change it!
It’s not an easy task. I can’t say that I’m there yet, but I’m improving; I used to let a negative comment about my appearance dictate my moods. It only took one comment of how I was looking a bit “chubbier” to ruin my day. Now, I’m not going to tell you that it doesn’t affect me but I have learned to stop, to think about it and see if I have the same opinion. To ask me questions: who is this person? is their opinion relevant? And since I’m not at suggestion box, I can’t take all opinions in and modify myself to please everyone, so I have learned to filter opinions.
Or even better, just stay with loving suggestions and advice.
So..do they get better?
I think they do. For me, is all about training yourself. The same way you train your body train your mind to not listen to what every person has to say about you! The truth is, they are not always right. As a matter of fact, they are almost always wrong, especially if your gut is telling you so.
Please let me know all your opinions! I’m dying to hear you guys speak about this topic. Are these tips helpful? Do you have anything to add? Please let me know in the comments.